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 No.3724

I've been feeling more lonely as of late for some reason, don't feel as attached to anons as I was before, and been kinda aching for some companionship. I figured out I needed friends.
So let's talk about how to make friends! How do you find them? How do you meet with them? I'd like to have someone to talk to. Been thinking about going to conventions and starting classes of some skill I'd like to learn, but I don't think the former is gonna lead me anywhere.

 No.3725

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Also, do people really befriend themselves through imageboards? I find that hard to believe, maybe 10 years ago but now I don't think so, or do most people just fall for discord links now?

 No.3727

>>3726
Personally I think it's gotta be something about willing to expose yourself a bit, otherwise in a place filled with introverts people seldom take the first step, even though I'm writing with confidence I haven't had that much experience though, or maybe I did, depends on your perspective. To share a bit I'll greentext (dunno if it's possible here lol)
>met buddy on volafile/early lainchan, we see each other few times a year.
>met another one sushigirl, haven't met yet
>met buddy on /pol/, now we have a little group of argies on telegram, haven't met yet (lives on another state)
>met and dated girl from /soc/, she's decent enough but [spoiler]she didn't want kids so we drifter apart
With exception of the last one I always took the first step, by offering an email or a place people can reach me if interested (usually telegram or discord), sometimes it doesn't work and there isn't enough -chemistry- to keep us riled, so to speak.
To cut the chase short, I think it's important to let it happen organically and to take a hint whether if someone doesn't answer it's because they're busy or just uninterested. Once I had a chat with some mexican girl living in japan, we talked about 4-5hs and then it died there, same with some romanian dude but he told me beforehand he wanted something "for the night", a one night talk? dunno. but we both ended up satisfied I guess. If you're still reading, seems like I fucked up and kept extending what was meant to be a tl;dr but whatever.
Regarding discord, I think it's fine and dandy if you have a group of frens already and you play together or perhaps you join due some interest of yours, stem stuff, langs, music, whatever it might be. But as a platform for seeking frens I'm not too optimistic, a lot of servers are huge already and you're just statistical noise, and when you join a small one chances are that it's pretty much dead and people no longer care but for some reason aren't able to leave the server, dunno.

Christ, I wrote a lot, I hope you find my experiences somewhat useful.

 No.3734

>>3727
>To cut the chase short
It's "cut to the chase". I think the phrase comes from movies. A film maker puts in a boring scene leading to an action filled chase scene, and it really over-stays it's welcome. You would want them to "cut to the chase".

 No.3735

>>3734
I barely manage with Spanish. Thanks for the lore.

 No.3737

>>3735
Your english seems totally fine. It's understandable for a non-native speaker to mess up our figures of speech.

 No.3739

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>>3724
>So let's talk about how to make friends! How do you find them? How do you meet with them? I'd like to have someone to talk to.
Start by saying hello to everyone you meet become friendly and try to find some commonality and similar likes and interest and go from there.
>Been thinking about going to conventions and starting classes of some skill I'd like to learn, but I don't think the former is gonna lead me anywhere.
I'd say just go first the day if you don't think it won't turn out the way you want to. Likely the same people that are going will have similar interest as you and it will be easier for you to connect with someone.

 No.3747

>>3724
Books: How To Win Friends & Influence People plus The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People are both classics.

 No.3761

I can only tell you how to lose friends, sorry.

 No.3769

>>3761
Don't worry, I'm already an expert on that

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I have 3 online friends and none IRL.
I met them all on /kind/ and they're good people.

 No.3831

>>3724
Tell less; ask more.
Talk less; listen more.



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