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Had to go deep into my folder to find this one.


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Iyashikei and Moe,a sub-genres of slice-of-life, typically they have my favorite anime titles. they re what I focus on because it gives the same feeling as getting lost in the pictures of Hiroshige and Hokusai!

I find wholesome idyllic and relaxing works of art to be the superior type of media or AT LEAST in anime and manga

I read both horror and tragedic books and children comfy books. This is because i want to immerse my mind into absolute horror and bliss.

understanding their distinction. The idea that only artwork that puts emphasis on the cruelty or melancholy can be high art is a part of the reason the modern age is becoming madder. it is true that this world leans more towards the darkness and cruelty

But when I immerse my mind into Moominavalley or Iddyllic and peacful work of art it becomes real. IMO it is the best to forget this world and cling to the jewels of idyllic children/MOE art work as safe heavens to feebly resist the mocking tides of fate.
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It's normal to enjoy escapism provided it's not interfering with making progress in your life and keeping your attention away from problems you need to deal with. Robert Anton Wilson supposedly said that we live through our myths but only endure our realities, and that sounds about right to me. Enjoying a healthy amount of escapism can give you the encouragement to keep on pushing ahead when things look rough.


Maybe it isn't possible for him to extricate himself from the pit for whatever reason.


Yeah, I'll admit, I worded that poorly. I did mean to say that you shouldn't completely avoid your problems, if you can do anything about it.


Music is the ultimate cope. Reading about two high schoolers in a happy relationship is nice, but I don't find that it changes my frame of mind much, if at all. Holyland did profoundly a decade ago when I discovered it, but re-reading it or reading similar things does nothing for me now. Music, however, reliably puts me in a bunch of different mindspaces. Songs from Castlevania always take me back to when I made the first small steps toward taking charge of my life. Kinobe (and I guess lounge in general) tends to make me think about the future in a positive way, like "what if there were a way I could live in a highrise somewhere in the tropics, where it's summer all the time and everything is beautiful and I watch the sun set over the sea every evening?"

Too many people think in terms of what they don't want, because they lack a clear vision of what they do want. Then they find that they have no way to a destination they haven't decided on, and get really depressed.

Curiously, a lot of "those people" I mentioned have managed to invert it so that reality is pretty comfy compared to what they see through their nightmare-goggles.

I guess, ultimately, consumption of a thing is only as good as the sense of agency it gives you— to act as the agent of your own well-being.


If I never found them, I'd be dead by now.

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Where were you on this tragic day back in 2001?
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non-American here
2001 I was still in Secondary school, and when it happened it was late night from where I'm at, so it was only in the morning that many of us got to know about it. For me I heard it over some classmates who was up watching US news on cable (which my house don't have.)

personally, the impact it has on the psyche of people worldwide (and still is now) hasn't dawned by me until 1 or 2 years later.
It's weird, but I guess it's mostly due to me not exposing myself to much international news back then, and I was more pre-occupied with other small things back then.


I was nine years old and sitting in my classroom. My teacher asked the class if they knew what had happened, and someone said the Twin Towers were attacked. I didn't really care or realize that it was important because I thought that stuff like that happened all the time. I still remember all that cheesy crying eagle type of imagery being everywhere after 9/11.


As was I, fellow young person.


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I was in school. The equivalent of what you'd call middle school.
I think I got in an argument with a friend the next day because I was saying its likely America did it to themselves, kinda like throwing away a rook to get the enemy's queen.
I was a weird conspiracy kid that thought too much about everything


I was at a familyfriend's house. We were all sitting in the living room, watching people jump out of the towers. I started laughing hysterically because I thought how silly it is that when adults want to jump on a bouncy castle, they have to jump out of a building in order for it to still be fun because they're big people and so grownups have to do things in a big way. I remember the anger in my uncle's eyes when he saw me laughing. Doing the Math, I was 8 years old at the time.

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Be kind ITT, but ironically.
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I'm not your pal, my dearest friend.


I'm not your dearest friend, my beloved.


This whole thread has went wacky!


I'm not your beloved, husband.


I'm not your husband, god.

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I've always wondered, why do people settle on a sort of life? In order to answer this, I've decided to ask the only people I consider my friends, /kind/, even of it's a small sample size. How far have you gone in life? What have you been through, and where has that brought you? What advice would you give yourself if you could communicate to yourself in the last?
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My childhood was fairly typical and enjoyable. I had a number of friends, my grades were slightly above average, and I played a few sports. After my first year of middle school I had to move from the Midwest down South. The first few years were a bit tough; its not really possible to just butt into a clique, so I was left mostly friendless outside of a few people I would talk with during lunch. The one thing I had going for myself was that I was determined. Just before starting high school I decided to plan my course of action for every year and how to get where I wanted to go. The first year went well, so that summer I decided to take a class to get ahead in math. But, sophomore year I lost all determination outside of testing into the "gifted" program. My one and only friend whom I had made the year prior moved away. After that, I decided to just coast on momentum and min-max my classes by only putting effort into the classes I actually cared about. Somehow I managed to make Honor Roll before graduating. I also managed to get accepted into a moderately prestigious university with a generous scholarship. My first semester went well, I suppose. Second semester, COVID hit and I had to return home and continue classes online.

I'm not really sure where that leaves me. I just don't see a future for myself staying in the US. Quite frankly, things have only gotten worse the older I've gotten. 9/11, the PATRIOT Act, wars overseas, the housing bubble, the '08 financial crash, mass shootings year after year, and now there's a pandemic and depression. Not to mention the declining quality of life: stagnant wages, over-saturated job market, crumbling infrastructure, bipartisan deregulation, outsourcing, no real social welfare, and increasing political instability.

Unless some miracle happens, I don't plan on staying here much longer and not in the glib, "if so and so becomes president, I'm moving to Canada," sort of way, either. The trouble most people face in terms of emigrating or trying to achieve permanent resident status isn't really a concern for me; I have Italian heritage so I should be able to use Jus Sanguinis to attain full Italian citizenship. Once that's through, I'll probably choose to continue my education somewhere in Europe where the cost of tuition is negligible compared to the United States. Beyond that, though, I'm not so sure where fate will lead me.

With my admittedly limited life experience, if I had any advice to givePost too long. Click here to view the full text.


I'm thinking of studying a bachelor of environmental science next year.


>I'm not really sure where that leaves me. I just don't see a future for myself staying in the US. Quite frankly, things have only gotten worse the older I've gotten. 9/11, the PATRIOT Act, wars overseas, the housing bubble, the '08 financial crash, mass shootings year after year, and now there's a pandemic and depression. Not to mention the declining quality of life: stagnant wages, over-saturated job market, crumbling infrastructure, bipartisan deregulation, outsourcing, no real social welfare, and increasing political instability.
I feel the same way. I've been recently looking into alternatives, but it doesn't seem like anything's going to be great in the long term. I might have to just suck it up and see if I can get into one of the better Latin American countries. I just began learning some Spanish just in case.

I'm concerned about leaving my family behind though. Maybe it would be better just to stick around and hold out for a national breakup and then restructuring and rebuilding. I unfortunately don't see any hope for the U.S. short of that, and maybe that wouldn't even be enough.


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I can understand being disheartened by recent events and circumstances. I've considered becoming an expat and relocating myself, but it's worth keeping in mind just how much open space and variation is still left in the US. I have a friend who relocated to a rural area last year. Smart move in hindsight. We still keep in touch. I am still living in a densely populated area dealing with ever rising taxes, unmaintained infrastructure, protests, riots, tensions, and the chaotic response to covid concerns. Whenever my friend and I discuss these things they respond with the perspective that all this might as well be occurring on another planet. They see these matters discussed in national news, but it doesn't touch their life. If you tune into the narrative of national news in the US, you can get fooled into focusing on problems that are only effecting big cities and forget that there are a lot of places that are untouched by such things. Like, you never read news stories that say "Last weekend in this small town nothing noteworthy happened and everyone is just fine." If I decide to relocate inside the US or abroad, I probably wont be moving to another big city.


I'm already living in a relatively small town and have noticed it becoming a lot more trashy and "vibrant" within the past few years. Maybe getting further out into the country would work, but I also think that no matter how far you flee into the rural areas it'll all catch up to you. That's also possibly true for other countries, but at this point it looks like the U.S. is on track to becoming a giant totalitarian favela. Maybe things will pan out to an extent, but I don't know that it's a good idea for someone to put all their eggs in this one basket. I think that countries that are a bit more backward are less likely to have the Eye of Sauron eying them up.

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this is a nice board
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That's a scawy song for me.


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You're afraid of spiders?


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or maybe they're afraid of lolis?


I don't want to go to jail.


Are you from Canada, friend?

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What are you all reading these days, friends? I am currently enjoying reading How to Eat, written by the Zen Buddhist monk Thich Nath Hanh. It is a very comfy and peaceful book on how to enjoy eating more. Here is an excerpt:

"Six food contemplations for young people:

1. The food is the gift of the whole universe: the Earth, the sky, the rain, and the sun.

2. We thank the people who have made this food, especially the farmers, the people at the market, and the cooks.

3. We only put on our plate as much food as we can eat.

4. We want to chew the food slowly so that we can enjoy it.

5. This food gives us energy to practice being more loving and understanding.

6. We eat this food in order to be healthy and happy, and to love each other as family".
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I tried reading Albert Caraco, but it made me really sad so I stopped.


I just finished a biography of Alfred Kinsey and came out disliking the guy, even if I can relate to him in some ways. He had a lot of compassion for sexual outsiders, but he could be a pompous, overbearing jerk to anyone he considered beneath him.

I guess in some ways it's an example of how not to act.


So you'd rather be patronizing to those beneath you?


He was snobbish and contemptuous of people over relatively trivial differences. For example, he'd ridicule his students in his pre-sex research days for their Indiana accents. He had a pretty domineering personality. It's not like other people were acting in a way that warranted it either. He would snub or get downright hostile to others who had been nothing but cordial with him, like Robert Yerkes of the National Research Council.

It's one thing not to mince words and to be upfront about where you stand, but it's another thing to act as callously as he often did.


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I'm reading The Pragmatic Programmer: From Journeyman to Master, it's a collection of tips for professional programmers, but so far it has been very boring and I'm not sure if I want to finish it. I'll feel guilty if I don't finish it but it is too long. And boring.

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I'm so, so so so so SO happy i found this board
i never thought I would sign up to an board, but here I am, and its a wholesome board too so that makes it all the more better!
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Hi there anon, welcome to the kindest board on the internet!


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Welcome new fren, I'm glad you've found us.


Hello mein freund. Hopefully you don’t get repulsed away.


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Rest in peace, OP.


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>Using a pair of poultry shears, quickly cut off the front ahoge about 1/4 inch up the hair. This kills the Sumika
LOL, but be careful with that approach… Lain tried something similar and it only made her stronger.

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Hello, frens. I love you all. :)
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Well, I call being the bride!
You'd better to good. I want my wedding to be perfect!


Actually though anon. I'll marry you in a few years, once I have my stuff sorted,
and a stable life, if you have nothing better going on for you. You don't have to love me if you don't want. You can just look at it as a objectively beneficial marriage.


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Sorry to say I was just funposting. Instead of marriage what if you and I became really good friends?


That's okay, I was too. I'd be happy with that.
The truth is, I've had a few drinks, and I just wanted an outlet for my affection.


we're gonna make it someday bro

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I hate to admit this but at times i feel like being kind to people is submissive behavior and a sign of weakness. Being nice is only commendable if you're a person who can be useful to them in a pragmatic and egoist way because for them, it's a sign of being responsible with their status as superior beings.

I feel that people usually dont enjoy talking to really nice people
I used to be overly nice to everybody I met IRL years ago and they all seemed to appreciate me a lot for it, but things always ended up with those people fucking me over or taking advantage of me for being nice to them.

Nowadays I'm super bitter and I don't trust people enough to let myself be nice to them, I feel like allowing myself to be nice, kind and supportive to people would seem like a sign of weakness, how the f..k do I fix this? I'm really confused.


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There's fake kindness where you take pity on someone and make yourself feel good by patting them on the head, and which smells of weakness because it goes hand in hand with encouraging weakness. If the person you're "helping" actually improves, then it means a lot of things that one might not want to acknowledge, like that improvement is possible in the first place and that this other person above whom you've mentally positioned yourself is now level with or higher than you in some sense. It's the sort of "kindness" that belies a slithering co-dependency.

That was my gut reaction to the thread title anyway. It's probably not actually what you were talking about, lol.

>Being nice is only commendable if you're a person who can be useful to them in a pragmatic and egoist way

Yeah, pretty much. When I go out of my way to help others, it's fundamentally because I want a nice place to live, online or off. We all influence each other's lives, and the drug addict sprawled out on the sidewalk in front of the grocery store is someone I want to help because I'd rather he put his shoulder to the wheel with the rest of us and support the cause of civilization instead of dragging it down by begging for drug money. I want every doomer to be a bloomer, spreading optimism instead of despair, because these behaviors ripple outward to shape the world.
>the body was too long.


>I used to be overly nice to everybody … ended up with those people fucking me over
Sounds like "nice guy" syndrome. You were expecting something in return. To get that 'something' usually requires that you possess social capital (ie, something for which you're respected or desired by your peers.) Whether it's true or not, showing deference-via-niceness signals to others that you lack any capital, which is why when the chips were down, you didn't matter to those IRL people. And it's not necessarily because they're just shitty, either— social capital includes stuff like useful real life skills that are necessary to a functioning society, and social circles are a microcosm of the greater society.

tldr, you were nice, but you probably weren't compelling (in terms of personality, the way a popular youtuber might be) or indispensable in practical terms.
>Nowadays I'm super bitter and I don't trust people enough to let myself be nice to them,
Basically, you don't trust yourself to handle being deceived, mistreated, etc by hustlers. And certainly, bad outcomes should be part of the calculation by which you decide how to deal with people, but you overestimate the cost, probably because your approach hasn't been working for you.

You don't need to become hard-hearted. Just recognize what people actually want out of life when you interact with them. Maybe read "how to make friends and influence people" which can probably help you more than I can in reframing the way you think about these things.


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Kindness without judgement or balance is weakness. There is a time, place and proper amount for everything that is good.


You can only be kind from a position of strength, inner strength that is. Forcing yourself to be kind when not under duress/out of expediency is admirable. Shitty people have some sense that they shouldn't get too close to actual nice people lest they be ruined. You can't really shoot the shit with or trust a goody two shoes in confidence. Niceness is a more general, informal kind of politeness. People not only want to be manipulated - they're begging for it provided you adopt the proper mannerisms in doing so.

If I help someone, I feel good from the fact that they feel good. I don't give a toss about society.

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