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What does being kind actually mean in your opinion? The term itself I believe can be considered ambiguous and therefore open to discussion. How doe we stay kind in response to a sometimes unkind world, especially online where being mean seems to be rewarded by engagement? What do you think can we do to stay kind or become better people without negativity rubbing off to us? Can always being kind get in the way of your ambitions or arguments, in what way? Did the kindness (or nonkindness) of someone specific (or something like a game/book/movie) influence the way you chose your career, or simply your worldview? Or have you put no thought into it at all? After everything the only thing we can really change is our own way of thought I think.

I remember a coworker of mine from a long time ago asking me bluntly why I was so nice to every new person I met, saying that most of them won't do the same for me. I just answered that's because it was taught to me that way, but found it a bit weird, that person was over forty years old, and at least being kind out of politeness should be something most of us have learned as small children, maybe he just didn't need to be kind anymore in his daily interactions, but maybe the hard part is being kind without expecting anything in return.
There are obviously more complex moral questions to be considered, let's say I was part of a friend group in the Roman Empire, they all spend their free time by going to the gladiator battles every Friday, would it be considered more kind to decline their invitations or to go with them and watch people fighting each other for amusement? So being kind is also contextual in the sense of time and place we are living in, do we decide to accept things how they are in order to not hurt the people we care about and use that as a way to justify nonkindness to strangers? Or do we have to be more careful about what kind of people surround us in the first place?

At least in one point I'm sure, that being kind without motives is a sign of a good, mentally well person, for example even if your day isn't going like you expected it, respecting others, being empathetic or just trying to understand others viewpoints is what matters, even if you don't know them personally.
Like I don't expect people working in retail to put on a fake smile for customers all the time, their kindness comes from putting up with customers non-kindness and not Post too long. Click here to view the full text.


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>What does being kind actually mean in your opinion?
You shall love your neighbor as yourself. - Even if your neighbor is unkind. Well, especially if your neighbor is unkind. I admit that it‘s hard sometimes.

>I remember a coworker of mine from a long time ago asking me bluntly why I was so nice to every new person I met, saying that most of them won't do the same for me.

Your coworker seems to be a child in pain. - Like most adults out there. It‘s understandable he kinda gave up on the kindness. Also: Kindness is often confounded as weakness these days what is very sad because people stop being kind to appear strong.

>to not hurt the people we care about and use that as a way to justify nonkindness to strangers?

If you‘re doing it only as a chance to hurt people you‘re not kind. In fact, you‘re a poophole if you do.
>Or do we have to be more careful about what kind of people surround us in the first place?

>eing kind without motives is a sign of a good, mentally well person, for example even if your day isn't going like you expected it

Nailed it.
>respecting others, being empathetic or just trying to understand others viewpoints is what matters, even if you don't know them personally.
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>If you‘re doing it only as a chance to hurt people you‘re not kind. In fact, you‘re a poophole if you do.
*as an excuse to hurt someone

i need more coffee ^__^

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Is it true you've gotta be cruel to be kind?
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Cruelty is defined by Wikipedia as follows:

>Cruelty is the pleasure in inflicting suffering or inaction towards another's suffering when a clear remedy is readily available.


And next, we will look at Wikipedia's definition of Kindness:
>Kindness is a type of behavior marked by acts of generosity, consideration, rendering assistant or concern for others, without expecting praise or reward in return.

So, you see, people can be kind without being cruel.

It is a matter of perception, as many people are on different levels of consciousness in this world. Some people have the mindset of seeing others living very peaceful, kind lives, and insist this is a form of the ignorance of their suffering and of millions elsewhere, and this would be a form of ignorance in itself, because they blame other people for their problems, instead of tending to their local communities. But that doesn't mean that people like this can't be helped.

Then there are other people who live well, and at peace with where they are, to a certain extent and to varying degrees from materialistically satisfied to full Zen Peacefulness. Now, there are people who will actively ignore the suffering of others when they can do something to help them, which could be seen as a cruel thing to do, but in your immediate life you live in your local area, you're not directly responsible for the suffering of other people.
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Not to be rude though it probably is, but are you taking amphetamines?



You can be kind without being cruel but you can't be honest without being cruel sometimes, and some times to be kind you need to be honest.

That is why people respect people who "keep it real", because despite the content they will kept it real with you, even if its not what you want to hear.

Also being kind depends on the context and culture of the place, it is not universal unlike truth.
To be a U.S Sniper you have to go through grueling training and borderline mental and physical torture.
Is it kind? No. Is it cruel? Also No.
But its most definitely real, and when those people come to the "real" world, their definitions of being kind might not be the same as yours, But the truth doesn't change.
It might be kind to tell a drug addict that a good chunk of their problems are created by the drugs they take or you might just want to be cruel, Does it matter if they forsake their usage?
Is it kind to tell an addict that is screaming in the bus to leave?
They might've gotten addicted because they liked to party in college or because they are child soldiers with severe trauma. But the reality doesn't change, they are still addicts and they still screaming.
It would be kind to the people on the bus for him to leave, but it wouldn't be kind to him to get kicked out especially if he has major traumas and uses drugs as an escape.

Being kind sometimes requires doing things that can be considered cruel but they might not be intentionally cruel and even if they are, they are still kind.
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Then even the Sniper has to learn how to be kind in order for a chance to get the same kindness back, like the addict everybody has to work through their own past, of course I cannot expect everybody to be nice all the time, all I can do is be as nice as possible to the Sniper, or at least honest, because as you say honesty is not the same as being cruel.

>Is it kind to tell an addict that is screaming in the bus to leave?

No that's not kind, the kind thing in this case would be to mind my own business, if the person clearly needs help then I would provide it by calling an ambulance for example, just because I don't like the screaming doesn't mean I have the right to get out of my way to throw him out, society as a whole may do it, that doesn't mean I have to be a part of it. When he starts getting physical with other passengers then the kind thing would be to step in and deescalate the situation if possible. Sometimes also walking away is the kind thing to do. You could argue that it would be different for someone you personally know that suffers from addiction, even then I'd say there is a difference between being honest and cruel, it just takes work, which is why so few people stop being kind and start getting cruel when the situation begins to require effort.

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What was the last movie you watched, what movies did you like and why?
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I agree with you mostly, 9 out of 10 of my favourite movies are animated ones, at least some good animated movies still come out, like Wolfwalkers, but there have been a few good live-action ones that have aired over the last few years I think.

The Lighthouse I thought was great for example, even though my experience with isolation is a different one it's still an interesting case study and quite artsy!

The recently released Banshees of Inisherin made me reflect about my relationship with people I know, kind of like the other thread here about what we get out of 'social transactions'.

Eurovision Song Contest: The Story of Fire Saga was just a good comedy, but I'm biased toward Will Ferrell honestly.

Triangle of Sadness, a movie about rich douchebags on a cruise was weird and not all what I thought would be my taste, still it made me think about how idiotic people can be in the wrong circumstances, regardless of their social standing.

Parasite (2019) Korean thriller also with lots of social commentary.

But mostly I've seen Japanese movies, mostly slice of life, of which I liked:

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>Uncut Gems.
OooOoo, that seems very interesting. Definitely going on my list of movies to watch, will probably watch it the week after next.
>Good time I found too dark after like 10 minutes so never finished.
That's understandable. It is pretty dark and filled with uncomfortable scenes and scummy characters.

Over the weekend I watched The Sky Crawlers. Overall, I'm not sure how I feel about it. I really liked the animation and art. The plot is kinda, strange. I thought it was going to be more of a war movie than what it was. It's pretty long and slow though, but I kinda liked that part.


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That's interesting, I need to give Sky Crawlers a second chance then, saw it a very long time ago but fell asleep and never rewatched it fully.

Yesterday I saw Jaws from 1975, the first half I found boring, the excuse they needed to hunt the shark was weird, people get eaten but still insist on going swimming because economy or something, in my opinion cutting the first half would have worked well and added to the mystery overall. But the last battle against the shark was quite cool! The plot reminded me of Moby Dick and the drive for revenge against nature which was a nice message.


I watched The Secret. The Coolest Movie ever made.


The flick based on the Rhonda Byrne book? It's better just to go to the original source material the book was drawing from if you ask me.

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You may end up destroying yourself for doing what you believed was a good deed.


Welcome to the club of cautious cynicism. :-)
Do you want to share what happened?


No, just wanna be a bit of a warning guy because these things are quite tough and I don't want anon to burn himself


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Only friend I had cucked me out of a girl I liked.


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Don't worry, it is only cucking if it is consentual. Perhaps your friend did not know your feelings. If this is not the case, and he knew, perhaps your friend is very neurotic and mentally unwell.

There are good people out there. You ought to try and join a club in your local area on meetup. If you can't find a club, make one. You'll find friends, it just takes time for these things to come together.

But Remember: Friends May Come and Go, But You Will Always Be There For You. Take care Friend.


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>Don't worry, it is only cucking if it is consentual.
Depends on how you're defining it. Cuckoldry traditionally entailed being cheated on. I think biologists use it to refer to a male creature that raises offspring that aren't his own. Then there's cuckold fetishists, who are the group you're talking about. The weird thing with them is that they're basically only pretending to be cuckolds in the first sense of the word.

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i want to be kind to myself and others
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You can be kind to me.


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I too wish to practice the art of kindness.


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Sun Tzu said kindness is smooth like water


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A lot of arts around in Asia! I prefer the art of peace over the art of war. The art of kind is quite a lovely version, though. Also: blind book recommendation. It's on my list of books to read.


One of you guys should write the art of kind! If one of you can write please do it

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Do you have a waifu /kind/? Who is she? What do you like about her? Feel free to share anything else related to your waifu as well!

I figure someone said Nagisa was their waifu, and we had this thread on the last two /kind/s. Maybe this time it'll be more popular…
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Man this waifu thing sure is powerful, I was having really sad thoughts, but looking at very kind and cute and lovely images of her just lifted up my mood and eventually the feels fizzled out.
Curious how this works!


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Get a daki. I never go to sleep without a smile.


I still live with my sister and dad…


You know them better than me, but my family doesn't really care. They let me do my own thing so long as I'm doing something with myself.


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I don't really have a waifu, but I regularly fantasize about being friends or lovers with (non-loli) Touhou characters.

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What are you looking forward to in the near future of your country or the world?
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I’m looking forward to seeing the rise of India and China, hopefully Africa and ASEAN too.


More anime


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Next year’s presidential election


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It is not a sad thing at all.
Most people would get rid of a huge baggage if they only cared about the things they can change.
Their relationships, their economic situations, their physical form.
Things that are outside your control are not worth your time, thus I don't care about anything involving me, or that can benefit me.


*Thus I don't care
Thus I only care

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(ミዎ ﻌ ዎミ)ノ


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Sketchbook: full color's is such a comfy anime, I'm already excited to rewatch it this summer.


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Do you have a schedule of what to watch again and when?


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I don't really have a fixed schedule but I like to rewatch some shows in the same month I first watched them. It doesn't matter for every show I've watched and would rewatch but some shows were really fitting for the season I first watched them in.


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That sounds nice, now I wish I could remember when did I first watch Sketchbook ~full color's~.

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im unsure what this place is really about but i like it, seems cool.
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Ohayō, friend!




Why is she holding her tongue?


there's no nose to grab onto



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I thought a thread about health could be something worth having. No matter if physical health of mental health, let's talk about it.

Right now I take less and less antidepressants, the reason why I started doing that is simply because I forgot to take them. The results are extreme. I feel more joy now and have the actual urge to eat because food is tasty and not just because I am hungry. Still I am also reminded why I got them in the first place, I feel more anxious, sleep worse and my mood randomly plummets, but now and then reaches above and beyond. The worst thing is that I have way more trouble to focus without them. Currently I take one pill a day so I can at least sleep well, but all of those changes already happened because I forgot to take those during the day. What is the best change is the fact that I genuinely enjoy video games again, before they were more like something to do because I have nothing else to do. I really ask myself how I should continue, I want to beat down the anxiety, but also don't want to lose the new found joy.

Another thing is that I noticed that I shouldn't eat carb for breakfast, I assume I consume to much carb for a day when I eat some in the morning too. If I don't do that my weight is good, if I do it I gain weight.
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Oh, that's frightening! What did the doctor say? Will it get worse over time?


>Will it get worse over time?
Most likely, yes.
>What did the doctor say?
Nothing really. It's super understudied so there's not much to say other than "This is a condition you have."

>i will try to cut out the sugary drinks. maybe limit it to once a day.
Ideally you should probably cut them out altogether, but only once a day is far better than most. Remember to drink water and stay hydrated!


Fermented food is great, I personally like sauerkraut.


The place I live has bad ventilation, so I got a CO2 monitor and try to keep windows open when the weather permits.


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Had a few new experiences due to the absence of the antidepressants. My anxiety became worse and worse and the overthinking started again. Fear of the future and lack of confidence mainly. I also feel more and more nostalgic about times when I considered the Internet still good and times when I didn't care about the Internet at all. On top of that I have nightmares and I sweat like crazy during the night. There are good things too though. I could ignite my passion for cooking again, as I said in the OP the joy of eating was already back, but now I even like to make food again. This is something I didn't have since more than a decade. Furthermore anime became fun again. I watched some shows and a few of them made me quite happy. At last I started to write stuff again, something I didn't do for more than a decade and a half. Overall I found a lot of lost joy and got reminded why I was clinging to anime and video games even when I took those pills, because I actually like it. A huge problem is that my performance at work turned very bad though, so I still don't know if I should increase the intake of pills or continue like that. I don't want that job anyway, but I need to work, which means I will have to look for a new one.

How are you doing, kind friend?

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