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 No.3637[Reply]

Every person out there has friends of their own already, how does one develop any sort of attachment to anyone when its this way? I don't care about developing acquaintances with to waste time with. I have never ever came across a person with whom I could talk with like I do with people on the internet about anything actually meaningful.
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 No.3684

>>3667
You don't switch out participants if you're just hanging out, going to a random basketball court and playing a game with randoms will be the most superficial thing ever, until they're not randoms then its not, its you playing with your buddies.
The type of bonds OP wants do not form magically, you would have to play basketball with the same guys for 5 years to get the type of friendship he wants, it takes time.
The more dangerous = less time, if you join the military have 10 people on your squad, go for a month long mission, get wiped out, you and the 2 other survivors will have the deepest form of camaraderie.
True friendship takes time to form, life its not an anime and you will not suddenlly meet that one person, it takes years and years of repeated contact to form any kind of significant bond.


>>3682
If you're absent for a long lenght of time without reason you will need the military blood brother scenario.

People also have their own personal lives, while you're away doing your things they are also doing their things.
You can do something like boxing or mountain biking, maybe base jumping, there are lots of social activities where the only one depending on you its yourself, but its still a social activity and you get to meet people and stuff, doesn't necessarily need to be a team thing.

You can do it OP I believe in you.

 No.3686

>>3684
>it takes years and years of repeated contact to form any kind of significant bond.

And that's what's unfortunate about, for example, basketball.
It seems to take only one wrong turn—moving away, suffering repeated injuries, squabbles—for the distance to begin and the pointlessness to set in.
So I would hope that OP enjoys it for himself, just as I imagine you enjoy your outdoor activities to yourself(?), and not for others or a hope to bond with others in a deeper sense, because it's fragile.
It would be absurd to expect any type of deep bond, life certainly isn't an anime.

I would like to call into question what qualifies a deep bond: if it's as OP wishes—namely, that he would be checked in on if missing—then I think the number of years could be discounted depending on the activity.
It would be strange, for example, for OP to disappear, while operating a business, or planning to go on a trip

I'm not sure what your friend-group looks like, but I've had double-digit years dissipate into nothing because the activity renders itself useless against the things that actually matter:
money & living in a way that makes others happy, unique to you

To align with your example of military; the depth of the shared experience is what counts, and years only amplify that, not define it.
Otherwise, as you say, most paths of interaction like outdoors do require years of investment, even though may unfortunately flick away—not to say as though the alternatives absolutely prevent this, just makes it less likely

 No.3688

>>3686


>because it's fragile.

But its worth it.

>It would be strange, for example, for OP to disappear, while operating a business, or planning to go on a trip


Why? People do that all the time.


>I'm not sure what your friend-group looks like, but I've had double-digit years dissipate into nothing because the activity renders itself useless against the things that actually matter:

If that happened then you didn't have real friendship, Doing the same activity for x years does not constitute being friends for x years.

Lets say you played basketball on the same court for 20 years, a couple guys asked you to play with them, that its not friendship, thats just a shared activity, now if in those 20 years you guys: went to the movies, hanged out at the park, played videogames together, met girl at a bar, went to each others birthdays, spent new years together, went to each others marriages, went camping, etc.
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 No.3708

>>3688
>Why? People do that all the time.
I meant not the event itself is strange, but those involved in the trip or business would find it strange, then seek out the missing person, for that person has dangling obligations to them.

>bonds

To be completely fair I no longer know what is a deep bond or why one would want it.
Maybe when I was younger I could understand the appeal.
If a deep bond is defined by the varied activity and time spend, and yet they are, as you agree, fragile, then that nullifies the meaning for me.
Cue the classic trope of childhood friends growing distant because of the life paths they've chosen.
It makes one wonder, "Why bother?"
All that time ended up going nowhere and not benefiting one's current circumstances.

Whether someone proclaims a deep bond or not doesn't deter from the reality of the situation for me, which is that not even time invested shirks the inevitability of collapse between relationships.
Thirty years to a divorce, twenty years until you never see a friend again—Time is not the guardian of relationships.

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 No.3712

>>3708
>those involved in the trip or business would find it strange, then seek out the missing person,

Yea they'll probably think you got kidnapped or suffered a car accident. You could potentially lose you job too. But if you didn't want to go you could just said you don't want to or made and excuse that you're sick, its a weird thing to suddenly disappear on your friends they'll probably think you're dead.

>If a deep bond is defined by the varied activity and time spend, and yet they are, as you agree, fragile, then that nullifies the meaning for me.


Usually the more fragile something is the stronger the bonds you get out that, in the military example your life its very fragile, but if it goes well the bonds are the strongest.

>It makes one wonder, "Why bother?"

For the human experience? One of the strongest one at that, right below love for your children and love for your partner, right around love for your parents?

>Thirty years to a divorce, twenty years until you never see a friend again—Time is not the guardian of relationships.


It could happen, or you could be happily married until your 90s or you could have a really great friend when you go to watch a basketball game at 84.
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 No.768[Reply]

Good night, /kind/!
Sleep tight and don't let the bedbugs bite. Sweet dreams for you and a good rest. I love you.
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 No.3692

>>3690
It has been two hours and I haven’t been able to fall asleep. I’m really fed up with this happening. This insomnia makes me so frustrated. I’m trying to have a good sleep schedule and have good habits but my body just keeps sabotaging me.

 No.3693

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>>3692
The only way I can fix my sleep schedule is to just skip a day and endure the next day until the time I want to fall asleep at. Maybe try that if you have the time.
Alternatively, though I've never used them I have heard drugs aren't that bad. As in melatonin and the like, don't smoke crack before bed.
And on that note, good night. I'm sleeping late again, but at least this time it was because of a good reason.

 No.3694

>>3693
Thanks friend. I’ve had melatonin tonight already. I took quite a lot too, but it hasn’t had much effect. I hope you sleep well!

 No.3700

>>3694
Well despite my difficulties falling asleep, it eventually happened, and I managed to get up when I planned to!

 No.3702

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>drugs aren't that bad
in the beginning
don't depend on them for long periods



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 No.3612[Reply]

since finding love is something that happens randomly, true love cannot exist. but if conditions are right, you can fall in love with anyone.

 No.3613

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so… this means even ugly friends can find love!

 No.3614

>>3612
Thanks for this motivational post

 No.3624

But what if I [i]want[/i] to die alone?



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 No.3399[Reply]

I oscillate between feeling on the top of the world and feeling like everything's hopeless every 3-5 days, does this happen to you?
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 No.3425

>>3399
It happens to me, although I think it might be happening on a longer time frame for me.

Right now I feel like I'd be better off dead. It's not out of a deep depression but more the state of the world and how bleak the future looks.
>>3405
I've definitely benefited from getting rid of my social media accounts.

 No.3550

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>>3405
>>3408
This makes three of us already. I still struggle with what to do with the additional free time though. The less I am online the better I feel, but offline nothing seems appealing. Sure, there are a few things that I like, the big joy is still watching anime and playing single player video games though. While this is still on a computer, I don't interact with others while doing those things. Conspicuous is the fact the less I see/hear/read/talk/interact online, the better off I am, no matter if I partizipate or not. /Kind/ is one of the few places I hold onto, thanks to its nature of not being hostile, advertisement, propaganda and all that crap. I just click with it, my guess is because it remembers me of the 2000s Internet, which I grew up with.

 No.3551

>>3550
>I still struggle with what to do with the additional free time though.

Eventually anime and videogames stop working.
With that inevitability in mind, you'll find something.

 No.3553

>>3551
I doubt I will someday dislike them. I am into them since more than 20 years. It gets harder and harder to find modern stuff I like though, so there is that. This already lead me to start a project, but I didn't do much until now and rarely work on it. Older stuff is limited after all, so maybe I will put more effort into it one day.

 No.3621

>>3553
What is the project?
I do enjoy anime still, but I forced myself to quit it because I feel unjustified in watching it without learning Japanese.



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 No.3525[Reply]

Post a cryptid that may exist
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 No.3537

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>>3534
Oh hello there!

 No.3560

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>>3525
given a big enough universe and enough time, any of the conventional cryptids could exist.
>>3534
the interdimensional UFO hypothesis is an intriguing theory, but improbable. most cryptids share a high degree of similarity with animals on earth. it's more likely that many of the cryptids that actually do exist came about their current form through naturally-occurring genetic drift.

>>3537
… nyaa!?

 No.3565

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>>3537
Please don't hurt me.
>>3560
>the interdimensional UFO hypothesis is an intriguing theory, but improbable. most cryptids share a high degree of similarity with animals on earth. it's more likely that many of the cryptids that actually do exist came about their current form through naturally-occurring genetic drift.
There is actually a lot of weirdness associated with certain cryptids that gets overlooked. There are reports of people encountering sasquatches and having them fade away in front of their eyes, for example. Vallee himself even mentioned that he thought there could be a connection.

There's also an author named Patrick Harpur who wrote a book called Daemonic Reality where he argues that UFOs, Marian apparitions, and cryptids are all emanations of the anima mundi (whereas Jacques Vallee seems to think they're the result of another form of consciousness intentionally messing with us). I hold to the transdimensional view for a lot of these things though. I've read that among Indians in the Pacific Northwest there's the belief that sasquatches are something between humans and spirits (if I recall correctly), and I think that lines up with that possibility.

I do think a lot of the more "basic" cryptids can just be undiscovered animals or have more mundane explanations though. Pics related.

 No.3566

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>>3565
*Daimonic Reality

 No.3618

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Entire thread is win



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 No.476[Reply]

This is a thread for /comfy/ refugees to visit in the /kind/ neighborhood!
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 No.501

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I really like comfy anons. Welcome! Have some Sauerkraut and at least one Bratwurst.

 No.502

>>501
Well that post came a bit late I guess. Oops.

 No.503

>>501
Looks delish, thanks /kind/! (Brekky for me atm :^)

 No.504

Wow
Thanks for all the great help today, /kind/! I hope we can return the favor.

 No.507

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Thanks for the /kind/ anons who helped today for the comfy reobening.
Still some work to do, feel free to join.
Kindly, /comfy/.



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 No.91[Reply]

Ohayou, /kind/, let's do our best today!
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>>91
Hi friend

 No.3480

>>273
So… How did it turn out in the end? Did you pass?

 No.3540

>>3480
Thanks to /kind/ I did indeed pass.

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>>3540
I'm so happy to hear that! congratulations!! your hard work paid off.

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>>3547
Thanks friend.



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 No.650[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

Post here when you want to rant about something,
That way we can avoid derailing /comfy/ and /kind/ threads!
UwU
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 No.3570

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It pains me to see cute girls when I go outside because I know I will never be in a relationship with one.

 No.3639

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>>3561
I had a gut feeling today wasn't the day and I ignored it as always. It was closer, but the timing screwed me over like last time.
I could have forced it but I knew that was the wrong option. I just hope I'll manage to ask her out before the month is over, because that's the deadline I set for myself.

 No.3848

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I am in unbearable anguish.

I've been in an LDR relationship with this girl for 6 years, since I was just a teenager basically. It seemed like we had great romantic compatibility for a while, around a year or so but after a few years they started giving me the complete cold shoulder. They berate me constantly, accuse me of not actually loving them, leave for months at a time and are otherwise just unpleasurable to be around when they are actually around. This has been going on for years now.

I used to be wildly in love with this girl, as in I'd take-a-bullet-for-them mad in love. They made me happy for a time and it genuinely felt like my life had a purpose when I was with them, like there was something to look forward to. But their constant accusations and negativity slowly whittled away my enthusiasm. It's like they just wanted to self-fulfill this prophecy of me not loving them by being truly horrible to me to the point where I just can't stand it anymore. I barely have the enthusiasm to even respond to them anymore because most of the time they just send me randomly hateful belittling messages.

It makes me horribly depressed because I do still have feelings for them, and when they're not being mean I still have fun with them from time to time. But I just don't get it. Why stick around like this if you think I don't love you? It just seems cruel. I hate that it feels like I have to be the one to leave now too, since I'd never have wanted to before, but I just can't take it anymore, I miss hearing words of affection.

It's hard for me to leave because it's been so long. I've wasted 6 years on something that amounted to absolutely nothing - from teenager to full-grown adult. Part of me still wants to try and make things work, but the other half has become defeatist because they never make any effort on their end. Love sucks.

 No.3868

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Nothing like waking up with a broken garage door because a crackhead decided to bang his head against it while going around the street breaking shit.
>>3848
No GF so take this with a grain of salt.
I've heard and seen some cases where people felt like they betrayed their partner, and they started projecting that betrayal and acting worse as a defense mechanism. Maybe she did something, or maybe it's just paranoia.
Either way, if you still love her try sitting and her down, tell her you still love her but that her behavior is hurting you. Wait a while afterwards, like a month or so, people don't like being confronted but if anything is going to change it's going to change over the next few weeks. It takes some time for people to cool their head and think back, but if that thinking takes more than a month it's probably not going to happen.
If that doesn't work maybe it's time to let go. Staying like this isn't going to be good for either of you.

 No.3923

Software engineering is so difficult sometimes.
You have to account for all possible inputs and all possible scenarios; if you don't it blows up in your face.

There's no one to blame.
People talk about AI taking over the world, but they don't know how fragile computation is.



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 No.2897[Reply]

What are some good sites to upload art to? I want to share my art with people instead of just letting it rot in my sketchbook, but I don't any good sites for this. Ideally, I would like some that offer a fair amount of anonymity. The most info I'd be willing to give to make an account would be an e-mail.
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 No.3454

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Bonus

 No.3455

>>3124
I will probably make an account for this later today or some time later this week

 No.3496

Is there a background story to your characters? Or do you just draw what you think will look neat?

 No.3531

>>3496
?Is there a background story to your characters? Or do you just draw what you think will look neat?
When I first started I had little stories in my head about what I was drawing. At some point it shifted from that to me just drawing whatever came to mind.

 No.3582

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Account made



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 No.3324[Reply]

Hopefully kindmin is okay with a thread for this.

How does /kind/ feel about getting together and watching some anime or something next weekend? I thought it could be a fun idea to have a stream just for us. It's been a few years since I ran a stream but I don't think anything has changed since then on the technical side, so it should be easy to set up.

Feel free to make suggestions for what you want to watch. I was personally thinking of something like Minami-ke, but I will take other recommendations into consideration.
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>>3443
Noo I overslept the stream and YKK is one of the best things that happened in our time, too bad but good choice

 No.3478

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>>3443
it was fun! and if in the future, you plan on doing another stream, it may be helpful to remember that some of the technical issues you mentioned (like in >>3434) can be worked around without touching google drive or youtube! for example, cytube also supports streaming on dailymotion in addition to youtube, and dailymotion has uploads of the complete series of 'Space Patrol Luluco' as well as other anime that youtube might not have.

you can check the link below for more info:
https://github.com/calzoneman/sync/wiki/Frequently-Asked-Questions#which-media-providers-are-supported

 No.3483

Does cytube support streaming from files on your device? And if it does, would it prevent any of the technical difficulties?

 No.3484

>>3483
You have to have your own server to stream your own files.

 No.3495

>>3478
Thanks friend. Surprised that people are still getting away with uploading anime to dailymotion. Could be worth looking into.



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